How to Give a Romantic,
Erotic Massage
Setting the Mood
An erotic massage should be a pleasant, sensual
experience and there many things that you can do to ensure that
it is.
- First, arrange for privacy so that you aren't
interrupted. Lock the doors, turn off the cell phones, and
eliminate distractions.
- Second, it's important to set the mood. A memorable
erotic massage is not hurried. Set the mood
appropriately. Dim the lights, stage a spacious
massage area (beds are much more comfortable than couches
or the floor), make sure the room is neither too warm nor
too cold, play some relaxing music, and light a few candles
for soft glow and light fragrance. Lighting at least
one Skinny Dip Candle is absolutely perfect. Not only will
the candle provide the soft glow and fragrance, but it
melts to become a deliciously warm massage oil that is
ideal for giving the massage itself.
- Prior to the massage, suggest that your partner take a
luxurious bath, complete with bath salts and candlelight.
Your partner is both freshly bathed, as well as relaxed,
and ready to enjoy your massage.
Giving the Massage
First, it's important to relax and enjoy yourself. Do
not worry that you don't have massage experience. This is not a
therapeutic massage, but rather a massage to help your partner
relax and enjoy what will likely be the prelude to a romantic,
sexual encounter.
Start slowly, be sensitive to your partner’s response and
adapt your technique accordingly. While great massages are not
the easiest to give, it is also difficult to give a bad one if
you simply keep you partner in mind, keep your movements tender
and rhythmic, and be cognisant of your partner's
response.To get started, simply rub some massage oil
or cream in your hands and warm it prior to starting . . .then
go to work. (Using a Skinny Dip Candle is perfect here. . .no
worry about "warming" the massage oil as it will be the
wonderfully warm as it melts.)
Where should you start the massage? There's actually no
"right" way to go about it. Generally speaking though, it's
natural to start with your partner lying on their stomach.
Begin at the soldiers, then go to the neck, down to his or her
shoulders, arms, upper back, lower back, buttocks, thighs,
calves, and then the feet. You may wish to then have your
partner move to their back and start at the feet and work your
way back upwards. Some suggest working on the feet and legs,
then skip to the upper body, moving slowly back down toward the
stomach and pelvic area. There is absolutely no one way to do
an erotic massage, so see what your partner responds to and
then you can gauge your movement from there. Working on certain
areas longer, or more often, than others is both appropriate,
and perhaps desirable. Just be sure not to dwell too long on
areas of particular sensitivity.
Some areas are better massaged somewhat softly, others are
better if they are massaged deeper, so
start experimenting. Just be tender and
keep your motions flowing. As you gain experience,
it will start becoming second nature to you. The
whole concept of erotic massage involves being touched in a way
that will subtly arouse your partner sexually,
so strive to keep continual contact with your partner. As
you explore his or her body, try to do it in a way that
creates a continuous flow of movement, as well
as to increase the level of intimacy as the massage
progresses.
If you are doing a partner massage for the first
time, or learning to please a new partner, it's especially
important to communicate. You don't necessarily have to
ask if every motion you try feels pleasurable, but don't be
afraid to ask if they want you to massage an area harder or
softer, and so forth. You also want to be sure to listen
to your partner's breathing. Breathing patterns can provide an
excellent indication of how you are doing.
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